Allegory of chastity?

Gosh, got reminded again, tonight hahahaa after along and meaningful chat, that im really an old school uncle mentality, really outdated liao, hahaha..

The subject is premarital sex, yes i still believe protecting one's virtuous,
Chastity among couples or friends are values i uphold from a time since high school,
not sure why, but i just grow up with such strong feelings towards it...

Being a man, most of u must start swearing Bullshit , or even laughing at me for that matter, yup, I AM STILL A VIRGIN. So what i say, of course i do pleasure myself, its perfectly normal and healthy to love yourself and provide self needed comfort. But having sex openly, or even one night stand just never gone to my mind.

No doubt as a normal healthy male, every now and then i have fantasy towards this, but being a strong will person i believe myself to be. Controls over such lust are of no big matter, call me timid, old timer, or even conservative, but even with consent from any partner if i don't feel the right amount of fondness and serious commitment of love towards such person, i will not take the next steps.

Yes, im still a young, healthy, horny man, so how do i control myself? How can i resist all the offer of sex buddy, rave party with friends? I just see the bigger picture, kua i guess... and i do have a porn collections for self ,,,ahem... Recreation.. the secret is balance. So it wont become an obsession nor addictions.

Yup , i am such a romantic fool, still believe in passion of love, not passion of lust.
Thats why i rather go have casual dating every now and then and yet not end up DRINKING COFFEE with the partner if u get what i mean. I enjoy the company , the passion, the spark of each date, instead of looking forward to the rewards of sex at the end of the dates.

To me , a Romantic outing and interactions during dates are things i cherish more than sex.
Some call it native, for a person never truly experience sex before with a partner, making such an old school conclusion. But to me, most important things for me is my happiness and my partner, if we both have the most wonderful experience during the date, it will carries on and makes us attract to each other more if there were a strong sparks occurs, hence we will look forwards to the next date, and so forth....

There are things to look forward to, so the unknown and unexpected will generate a spark of interest ,passion, and chemistry in any relationship, i so ask why end the whole experience by having sex in the first or few dates to begin with?

Here are some reminders i keep to myself to maintain will and sanity so far..
*Safe sex still promotes casual sex, and hence responsibility lines sometimes fades easily
*Without casual sex, one can prevent the risk of STD infection.
*One will have pure and positive mentality towards everything or everyone in life, not every actions taken , was just to get into her pants.
*When the time comes, having sex first time with your committed partner will spring more excitement and satisfaction.
*Relationship will be tested, on the will power of each parties towards future temptations.Hence better understanding towards your spouse.
*Its cool to be a guy in control of himself over his lust and emotion than rather letting them controls u....